Etiquette | Texting & Messaging | Safety Growing up, my mother used to teach etiquette classes, so I grew up knowing which fork to use when, how to be chivalrous, and how best to communicate your ideas.
You’re looking for a potential mate, not a pen pal.
I’m not talking about anonymous trolls — I’m talking about how you represent yourself.
Listen, I have no problem if you want to add 1 inch or subtract five pounds. But, if the profiles I read are any indication, EVERYONE seems to be “a world-class traveler who’s happy chilling at home on a Friday or hitting the town, loves to explore ethnic restaurants, and enjoys outside activities like hiking, kayaking, or biking.” And then when you go on a date, they’d rather Netflix and chill, or they enjoy sleeping in on a Saturday and lounging around eating pizza. It’s just that you don’t want to misrepresent yourself.
However, if you spent some time getting to know them and have built a foundation of mutual respect and, hopefully, interest, then you can start to share more controversial topics. However, when you’re online, you have plenty of time to think about your message. You are a human being first and a potential mate second. You know their real name and possibly their social media handles.
On every topic that exists, I have some friends on one side and some on another. Be respectful, be engaging, and be excited to meet them. This doesn’t mean you now can blast invites over Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, Kik, Whats App, Tumblr, Linked In, or You Tube.
If they tell you a slightly embarrassing story, guess what you should do? If someone writes to you “Hey, I like that picture of you in Tulum! People are just testing the water with their first emails. There is no correlation between bad spelling or grammar and intelligence. Keep your homonyms straight (your, you’re) and your possessives minimal (it’s, its).